Many happy homes have turned history just because of a little mistake or ignorance of one or both parties. Some wives wished they never spoke the words that have deprived them of their happiness now.
I’ll share this with you, I have always had the notion of ‘waiting for him in bed’ – I mean, when there is any issue(s) and he’s not willing to apologise; I will wait for him till bedtime. But this is a very wrong stance to take as a woman. Below are few tips that will help mend your home;
Men prefer to be respected than any other thing you can think of
They love to be in charge at all times, they do not want a competitor; they didn’t marry you to take their place instead a ‘manager’. Whatever you are doing outside the home, they want it done in their name so they can take all the glory while they appreciate you at home. But, when you have done this consistently, they will start appreciating you in public as well. A Man’s ego cannot be underestimated, this is natural though. Respect and a good food is the key to a man’s heart.
They can never become like you
We tend to make this mistake of forcing our husbands to see things exactly the way we see them. This is wrong because God, who made them in the beginning, made them ‘male and female’ not ‘male and male’. For this cause, it is okay to see ‘same things’ differently. Men are overseers; they tend to see ahead, more than the present. Women, we are mostly concern of the present, the immediate needs.
We mustn’t insist they see things from our perspective. I think we should first accept theirs, somehow, they will still seek our opinion on the matter. Patience is key.
We tend to make this mistake of forcing our husbands to see things exactly the way we see them. This is wrong because God, who made them in the beginning, made them ‘male and female’ not ‘male and male’. For this cause, it is okay to see ‘same things’ differently. Men are overseers; they tend to see ahead, more than the present. Women, we are mostly concern of the present, the immediate needs.
We mustn’t insist they see things from our perspective. I think we should first accept theirs, somehow, they will still seek our opinion on the matter. Patience is key.
Learn to release him to his head
You cannot change a man, there is no point stressing yourself about it. A man is the head while ‘Christ is his head’.
A wife is to submit to her husband. Where there is a matter, talk to his head and watch God turn things around for your good. Many wives put their challenges with their husbands on their laps trying to find solution at all cost, my advice; ‘submit yourself to your own husband and watch how you’ll be in charge of your home gradually.
It is imperative not to copy him even if his new demeanor is inconveniencing you, you are there to complete him. In addition, do not wage war with your man because you won’t win.
Let your man’s secret be safe with you
Some men would rather confide in their friends than their wives. This is because they feel their secret is safer with that friend. Sincerely, you will agree with me that this is right in some cases. Some men are scared of letting out all of their secrets to their wife because they want to avoid future insults or argument.
A woman shouldn’t see her man’s weakness as an opportunity to nag at him, because they’d rather dwell in a corner of the housetop, than with a brawling woman in a wide house.
Here are the tips I’ve got that are working for me. You can share yours let’s learn from you.
-Mary Obadimeji
